This process works best if you can sit for a few minutes and write your
thoughts on paper. In time, when you have played the game sufficiently,
you will find success with it just by rolling the thoughts
across your mind, but writing them down onto paper causes
a much more powerful point of focus,
which makes it easier for you to feel the direction of your chosen thought.
To begin: First, write a brief statement of how you feel
about the subject right now. You could describe what has happened,
but what is most important is that you describe how you feel.
Next, write another statement that amplifies exactly how you feel.
This helps you more easily recognize any improvement
as you move through the process.
For example, you have just had an argument with your daughter
because she makes no effort to help around the house.
She does not even take care of her personal things, and
her own room is a terrible mess.
She seems to hold no regard for the effort you are making
to maintain an orderly environment.
Not only does she not try to help, but it seems that she deliberately tries to
hinder you. So you write:
She [or write your daughter’s name] is deliberately trying to make my life
She doesn’t care about me at all.
She doesn’t even come close to doing her share of the work.
Once you have made a few statements that indicate how you really feel
right now, make this statement to yourself:
I’m going to reach for some thoughts about this subject
that feel a little better. Now, once you have written each thought,
evaluate whether it feels better, the same, or worse than
when you initially began.
So you write:
She never listens to me. (same)
I want her to be more responsible, (same)
I shouldn’t have to pick up after her. (same)
I should have taught her better, (worse)
I wish her father would support me more, (worse)
A clean house is important to me. (slightly better)
I know she has a lot on her mind, (better)
I remember what it’s like to be a teenager, (better)
I remember when she was a sweet little girl, (better)
I wish she were still that sweet little girl, (worse)
I don’t know what to do about this, (worse)
Well, I don’t have to figure it all out today, (better)
There are so many things about her that I adore, (better)
I know there is more to life than a clean house, (better)
It should be okay that I want a clean house, (worse)
It’s all right that I want my house to be clean, (better)
It’s fine that she doesn’t care about that now. (better)
Remember, there are no right and wrong answers here,
and no one else can really know which of your thoughts
ring better or worse feelings to you.
The value of this process is that you will become aware
of how your thoughts feel—and you will become more adept
at choosing better-feeling thoughts.
Many would ask, “But what good would it be to feel
better about my daughter’s sloppy habits?
My thoughts won’t change her behavior.”
We want to say to you that your thoughts change
the behavior of everyone and everything who has anything to do with you.
For your thoughts absolutely equal your point of attraction,
and the better you feel, the more that everything and everyone around you improves.
In the moment that you find an improved feeling,
conditions and circumstances change to match your feeling.
The Which Thought Feels Better? game will help you begin to realize the
power that your own thoughts have to influence everything around you.
"When I do good, I feel good. When I do bad, I feel bad. That's my religion."