|The 2nd Agreement - [Don´t take anything personally]|
Don’t Take Anything Personally...........
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality,
their own dream. When you are immune to the options and actions of others, you won’t be the
victim of needless suffering.
The next three agreements are really born from the first agreement. The second agreement is
don’t take anything personally.
Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness
because we make the assumption that everything is about “me”. During the period of our
domestication, we learn to take everything personally. We think we are responsible for
Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. Even when a situation
seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. The opinions
they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds. Their point of view
comes from all the programming they received during domestication.
When you take things personally, then you feel offended, and your reaction is to defend your
beliefs and create conflicts. You make something big out of something so little, because you
have the need to be right and make everybody else wrong. You also try hard to be right by
giving them your own opinions. Whatever you feel and do is just a projection of your own
personal dream, a reflection of your own agreements.
It is not important to me what you think about, and I don’t take what you think personally. I
know what I am. I don’t have the need to be accepted. Others are going to have their own
opinion according to their belief system, so nothing they think about me is really about me, but
it is about them.
Whatever people do, feel, think, or say, don’t take it personally. If they tell you how wonderful
you are, they are no saying that because of you. You know you are wonderful. It is not
necessary to believe other people who tell you that you are wonderful.
Even the opinions you have about yourself are not necessarily true; therefore, you don’t need
to take whatever you hear in your own mind personally.
There may be times when you have ideas that don’t originate in your mind, but you are
perceiving them with your mind. We have a choice whether or not to believe the voices we
hear within our own minds, just as we have a choice of what to believe and agree with in the
dream of the planet.
When you make it a strong habit not to take anything personally, you avoid many aspects in
your life. Your anger, jealousy, and envy will disappear, and even your sadness will simply
disappear if you don’t take things personally.
You can see how important this agreement is. Taking nothing personally helps you to break
many habits and routines that trap you in the dream of hell and cause needless suffering. Just
by practicing this second agreement you begin to break dozens of teeny, tiny, agreements that
cause you to suffer. And if you practice the first two agreements, you will break seventy-five
percent of the teeny, tiny agreements that keep you trapped.
As you make a habit of not taking anything personally, you will only need to place your trust in
what others say or do. You will only need to trust your-self to make responsible choices.
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