Showing posts with label Agreements. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Agreements. Show all posts

Thursday, February 6, 2014

Domestication and Dream of the Planet


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The Dream of the Planet

Dreaming is the main function of the mind, and the mind dreams twenty-four hours a day.

Before we were born the humans before us created a big outside dream that we will call
society’s dream or the dream of the planet.

The dream of the planet is the collective dream of billions of smaller, personal dreams. This
includes all of society’s rules, its beliefs, its religions, its different cultures and way to be, its
governments, schools, social events, and holidays.

The outside dream has so many rules that when a new human is born, we hook the child’s
attention and introduce these rules to his or her mind
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Attention is the ability we have to discriminate and to focus only on that which we want to
perceive. The adults around us hooked our attention and put information into our minds
through repetition. That is the way we leaned everything we know.

We learned how to behave in society: what to believe and what not to believe; what is
acceptable and what is not acceptable; what is good and what is bad; what is beautiful and
what is ugly; what is right and what is wrong.

Our parents, teachers, and siblings were all trying to hook your attention. We also learn to hook
the attention of other humans, and we develop a need for attention, which can become
competitive. The need for attention becomes very strong and continues into adulthood.

The outside dream hooks our attention and teaches us what to believe, beginning with the
language we speak. Language is the code for understanding and communication between
humans. Every letter, every word in each language is an agreement. Once we understand the
code, our attention is hooked and the energy is transferred from one person to another.

As children, we didn’t have the opportunity to choose our beliefs, but we agreed with the
information that was passed to us from the dream of the planet through other humans. The
only way to store information is by agreement. As soon as we agree, we believe it, and this is
called faith. To have faith is to believe unconditionally.

That’s how we learn as children. Children believe everything adults say. The result is surrender
to the beliefs with our agreement.

This process is the domestication of humans. And through this
domestication we learn to live and how to dream. And we also learn to judge: We judge
ourselves, judge other people, and judge the neighbors.

We train our children whom we love so much the same way we train any domesticated animal:
with a system of punishment and reward. When we went against the rules we were punished;
when we went along with the rules we got a reward. Soon we became afraid of being punished
and also afraid of not receiving the reward. The reward is the attention that we got from
others. We soon develop a need to hook other people’s attention in order to get the reward.

With that fear of being punished and that fear of not getting the reward, we start pretending to
be what we are not, just to please others, just to be good enough for someone else. We are
afraid of being rejected. The fear of being rejected becomes the fear of not being good enough.
Eventually we become someone that we are not.

All our normal tendencies are lost in the process of domestication.

The domestication is so strong that at a certain point in our life we no longer need anyone to
domesticate us. We are so well trained that we are our own domesticator. We can now
domesticate ourselves according to the same belief system we were given, and using the same
punishment and reward. The belief system is like a Book of Law that rules our mind. We base all
of our judgments according to the book of Law.

The inner Judge uses what is in our Book of Law to judge everything we do and don’t do,
everything we think and don’t think, and everything we feel and don’t feel. Everything lives
under the tyranny of this judge.


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[The Four Agreements ]

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

The 4th Agreement

The 4th Agreement [Always do Your Best]



Always do Your Best .....

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Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy
as opposed to sick. Under any circumstances do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment,
self-abuse, and regret.

This agreement allows the other three to become deeply ingrained habits. The fourth
agreement is about the action of the first three: Always do your best.

Keep in mind that your best is never going to be the same from one moment to the next. Your
best will sometimes be high quality, and other times it will not be as good.

Your best will also change over time. As you build the habit of the four agreements, your best
will become better than it used to be.

Just do your best – in any circumstance of your life. If you always do your best then there is no
way you can judge yourself. And if you don’t judge yourself there is no way you are going to
suffer from guilt, blame, and self-punishment. By always doing your best, you will break a big
spell that you have been under.

Doing your best, you are going to live your life intensely. When you always do your best, you
will take action. Doing your best is taking the action because you love it, not because you’re
expecting a reward. If you take action just for the sake of doing it, without expecting a reward,
you will find that you enjoy every action you do. Rewards will come, but you are not attached
to the reward. If we like what we do, if we always do our best, then we are really enjoying life.
We are having fun, we don’t get bored, and we don’t have frustrations.

It is not an easy agreement to keep, but this agreement is really going to set you free.

When you do your best you learn to accept yourself. But you have to be aware and learn from
your mistakes. Learning from your mistakes means you practice, look honestly at the results,
and keep practicing. This increases your awareness.

Taking action is being alive. It’s taking the risk to go out and express your dream.

The first three agreements will only work if you do your best. By doing your best, the habits of
misusing your word, taking things personally, and making assumptions will become weaker and
less frequent with time.

If you do your best always, over and over again, you will become a master of transformation.
Everything you have ever learned, you learned through repetition. Action is what makes the
difference.

If you break an agreement, begin again tomorrow, and again the next day. Some day you will 
discover that you are ruling your life with these Four Agreements. Just live one day at a time 
and stay in the present moment. 





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The 3rd Agreement

The 3rd Agreement [Don´t make Assumptions]

Don’t Make Assumptions........ 

                                                                                                             

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with
others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one
agreement, you can completely transform your life.

We have our tendency to make assumptions about everything. The problem with making
assumptions is that we believe they are the truth.

Whenever we make assumptions, we’re asking for problems. We make an assumption, we
misunderstand, we take it personally, and we end up creating a whole big drama for nothing.

The whole world of control between humans is about making assumptions and taking things
personally.

Because we are afraid to ask for clarification, we make assumptions, and we believe we are
right about the assumptions; then we defend our assumptions and try to make someone else
wrong. It is always better to ask questions than to make an assumption, because assumptions
set us up for suffering.

It is always better to ask questions than to make an assumption. In any kind of relationship we
can make the assumption that others know what we think, and we don’t have to say what we
want. They are going to do what we want because they know us so well. If they don’t do what
we want, what we assume they should do, we feel hurt. A whole drama is created because we
make this assumption and then put more assumptions on top of it.

The human mind needs to justify everything, to explain and understand everything, in order to
feel safe. We have millions of questions that need answers because there are so many things
that the reasoning mind can’t explain. It is not important if the answer is correct; just the
answer itself makes us feel safe. This is why we make assumptions.

Even if we hear something and we don’t understand, we make assumptions about what it
means and then believe the assumptions. We make all sorts of assumptions because we don’t
have the courage to ask questions.

These assumptions are made so fast and unconsciously most of the time because we have
agreements to communicate this way. We have agreed that it is not safe to ask questions; we
have agreed that if people love us, they should know what we want or how we feel. When we
believe something, we assume we are right about it to the point that we will destroy
relationships in order to defend our positions.

We make the assumption that everyone sees life he way we do. We assume that others think
the way we think, feel the way we feel, judge the way we judge, and abuse the way we abuse.
This is the biggest assumption that humans make.

We also make assumptions about ourselves, and this creates a lot of inner conflict.

Just imagine the day you stop making assumptions with your partner and eventually with
everyone else in your life. Your way of communicating will change completely, and your
relationships will no longer suffer from conflicts by mistaken assumptions.

The way to keep yourself from making assumptions is to ask questions. Make sure the
communication is clear. Have the courage to ask the questions until you are clear as you can be,
and then do not assume you know all there is to know about a given situation. Once you hear
the answer, you will not have to make assumptions because you will know the truth.

Without making assumptions your word becomes impeccable.

With clear communications, all your relationships will change

Becoming aware of these habits and understanding the importance of this agreement is the
first step. What will really make a difference is action. After many repetitions these new
agreements will become second nature.

By making this one agreement a habit, your whole life will be completely transformed



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The 2nd Agreement



The 2nd Agreement - [Don´t take anything personally]



Don’t Take Anything Personally...........

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Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality,
their own dream. When you are immune to the options and actions of others, you won’t be the
victim of needless suffering.

The next three agreements are really born from the first agreement. The second agreement is
don’t take anything personally.

Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness
because we make the assumption that everything is about “me”. During the period of our
domestication, we learn to take everything personally. We think we are responsible for
everything.

Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. Even when a situation
seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. The opinions
they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds. Their point of view
comes from all the programming they received during domestication.

When you take things personally, then you feel offended, and your reaction is to defend your
beliefs and create conflicts. You make something big out of something so little, because you
have the need to be right and make everybody else wrong. You also try hard to be right by
giving them your own opinions. Whatever you feel and do is just a projection of your own
personal dream, a reflection of your own agreements.

It is not important to me what you think about, and I don’t take what you think personally. I
know what I am. I don’t have the need to be accepted. Others are going to have their own
opinion according to their belief system, so nothing they think about me is really about me, but
it is about them.

Whatever people do, feel, think, or say, don’t take it personally. If they tell you how wonderful
you are, they are no saying that because of you. You know you are wonderful. It is not
necessary to believe other people who tell you that you are wonderful.

Even the opinions you have about yourself are not necessarily true; therefore, you don’t need
to take whatever you hear in your own mind personally.

There may be times when you have ideas that don’t originate in your mind, but you are
perceiving them with your mind. We have a choice whether or not to believe the voices we
hear within our own minds, just as we have a choice of what to believe and agree with in the
dream of the planet.

When you make it a strong habit not to take anything personally, you avoid many aspects in
your life. Your anger, jealousy, and envy will disappear, and even your sadness will simply
disappear if you don’t take things personally.

You can see how important this agreement is. Taking nothing personally helps you to break
many habits and routines that trap you in the dream of hell and cause needless suffering. Just
by practicing this second agreement you begin to break dozens of teeny, tiny, agreements that
cause you to suffer. And if you practice the first two agreements, you will break seventy-five
percent of the teeny, tiny agreements that keep you trapped.

As you make a habit of not taking anything personally, you will only need to place your trust in
what others say or do. You will only need to trust your-self to make responsible choices.




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The 1st Agreement

The 1st Agreement - [Be Impeccable With Your Word]

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or
to gossip about others. Use the power of the word in the direction of truth and love.

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The first agreement is the most important one and also the most difficult one to honor. It is
very, very powerful.

Through the word you express your creative power. It is through the word that you manifest
everything. What you dream, what you feel, and what you really are.

The word is a force; it is the power you have to express and communicate, to think, and thereby
to create the events in your life. But like a sword with two edges, your word can create the
most beautiful dream, or your word can destroy everything around you.

The word is so powerful that one word can change a life or destroy the lives of millions of
people. Hitler’s word, based on fear-generated beliefs and agreements, will be remembered for
centuries.

During our domestication, our parents and siblings gave their opinions about us without even
thinking. We believed these opinions and we lived in fear over these opinions, like not being
good at swimming or writing.

By hooking our attention, the word can enter our mind and change a whole belief for better or
worse. For example: You may believe you are stupid. And you may have believed this for as
long as you can remember. This belief may cause you to do a lot of things just to ensure that
you are stupid. Then one day, someone hooks your attention and using the word, let’s you
know that you are not stupid. You believe what the person says and make a new agreement. As
a result you no longer feel or act, and someone hooks your attention and says, “Yes, you are
really the most stupid person I have ever met,” the agreement will be reinforced and become
even stronger.

Impeccability means “without sin”. A sin is anything that you do which goes against yourself. You
go against yourself when you judge or blame yourself for anything. Being without sin is exactly
the opposite. Being impeccable is not going against yourself. You take responsibility for your
actions, but you do not judge or blame yourself.

Sin begins with rejection of yourself. Self-rejection is the biggest sin that you can commit.

If I love myself I will express that love in my interactions with you, and then I am being
impeccable with the word, because that action will produce a like reaction. If I love you, then
you will love me.

Being impeccable with your word is the correct use of your energy; it means to use your energy
in the direction of truth and love for yourself. If you make an agreement with yourself to be
impeccable with your word, just with that intention, the truth will manifest through you and
clean all the emotional poison that exits within you. But making this agreement is difficult
because we have learned to do precisely the opposite.

We must begin to understand what the word is and what the word does. If you understand the
first agreement, be impeccable with your word, you begin to see all the changes that can
happen in your life. Changes first in the way you deal with yourself, and later in the way you
deal with other people, especially those you love the most.

If we adopt the first agreement, and become impeccable with our word, any emotional poison
will eventually be cleaned from our mind and from our communication in our personal
relationships.

Impeccability of the word will also give you immunity from anyone putting a negative spell on
you. You will receive a negative idea if your mind is fertile ground for that idea.

You can measure the impeccability of your word by your level of self-love. How much you love
yourself and how you feel about yourself is directly proportionate to the quality and integrity of
your word. When you are impeccable with your word, you feel good; you feel happy and at
peace.

It is up to you to make this agreement with yourself: I am impeccable with my word. Nurture
this seed, as it grows in your mind, it will generate more seeds of love to replace the seeds of
fear. This first agreement will change the kind of seeds your mind is fertile for.

Be impeccable with your word. This is the first agreement that you should make if you want to
be free, if you want to be happy.

Use the word to share your love, beginning with yourself. Use the word to break all those
teeny, tiny agreements that make you suffer.

Impeccability of the word can lead you to personal freedom, to huge success and abundance; it
can take away all fear and transform it into joy and love.

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