Gently,step by step, dissolve yourself from any thoughts that create resistance,because they are the only thing that hinders you from fulfilling your Quest. The relief you will then feel indicates that you are abolishing inner resistance.Just like that ; the tension, anger and frustration you felt before were indicators that you strengthened your inner resistance.
If we are pure at heart, we would not wish one person well and not another. We should see there is no difference between one person or another. Then our pure thoughts can be evenly spread between all people. Sunshine can reflect on clean water but not on dirty water. God's light will be reflected by those persons with a pure heart.